Abusive Relationship

You may think that if your spouse or partner does not hit you that you are not in an abusive relationship. You have to know that there is more to abuse than just hitting or striking someone. Many people suffer through nasty verbal tirades and emotional abuse day after day, but just because the person never hits them, they think it is somehow eventually go away. This simply is not the case. Abusive relationships are probably more common than you realize, and if you are in one you have to get out as soon as you can.

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Many abusive relationships start out as happy ones. Often abusive personalities can hide their true nature for a long time or until after the wedding vows have been exchanged. The abuse starts out small, and the abused person often wonders what just happened, and they begin to dismiss the episodes as something they deserve. After a while, the abusive relationships, become worse, but by the time this happens, the abused person can’t see any way out, and they often think that this is the way that love is supposed to be, or they are afraid of being alone. I personally think that being alone is better than being in a emotional, verbal, mental abusive relationship.

Abusive relationships can be verbally, mentally or emotionally. These relationships can be with your friend, lover, wife, parents, children or even in your work. Its not just with your mate.

Remember that some men are in abusive control relationships because they like the power and they will make you feel bad as though its your fault and they won’t admit that they think something is wrong. They always start with negative comments either about your weight, or you are not smart enough, or you can’t learn something new as fast as they can etc….They may downplay the abuse and they blame the other person and they never take into consideration that the words they spoke were emotionally abusive and hurtful. You will recognize the signs of an abusive relationship because you will feel hurt or sad when it happens. If there is a cycle of abuse in your relationship this information explains it clearly.

If you were abused as children , you may not even realize what real love and respect is supposed to be like. You were raised to believe this is how someone who loves you treats you. You may see your marriage or partnership as completely normal, even though you are living with deep pain each and every day. Abusive relationships seem to be something that happens to someone else, not you.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do to help people who are in abusive relationships, at least not at first. You have to try everything you can to get them to leave their abusive relationship or to protect them self. They may resist for a long time and insist that they are fine. Those in abusive relationships can often end up dead, so you have to keep on being their for them until they see what is going on and make the decision to get out of their situation. They won’t leave until they can come to this conclusion on their own. Do what you can though, as you may be the voice of reason that finally gets them to see what is going on and to move on to getting help and leading a wonderful life.

There are also clinics one can go to for help and also on line to resolve some of the abusive issues that are going on in your life. If you cannot talk to the person who is afflicting this abusive on you ask them to go with you for therapy and assure them that getting help is the right thing to do.