Acts Of Authenticity-What Is it?

A sense of authenticity is one of our deepest psychological needs, and people are more hungry for it than ever. Even so, being true to oneself is not for the faint of heart. Are you up to living an authentic life?

Do you know who you are: Your very own self.

The hunger for authenticity guides us in every age and aspects of life. it drives our explorations of work, relaionships, play and prayer.

Questions of authenticity determines our regard for others.Authenticity is correlated with many aspects of psychological well-being, including vitality, self-esteem, and coping skills. Acting in accordance with one’s core self- a trait called self-determination, is ranked by some experts as one of three basic psychological needs, along with competence and sense of relatedness.

People who feel inauthentic are often living life according to fixed views about how they should be.

I know of 8 acts of authenticity:

Reads novel- it is the best way to figure out what is feels like to be in someone else’s head and that is what helps us to distinguish our own identity.

Meditate-Meditation creates moments of happiness, from here you can investigate how to create real fulfillment.

Be deliberate- authenticity consists in being aware that you have choices and consciously choosing what you do.

Do not be to deliberate-People often make better decisions when they don’t think sboud them. Go with the old say “go with your gut” Authentic reactions are much more at gut level.

Cultivate solitude- quiet and time for the self are a big plus if you are worried about inauthenticity, there is nothing like shutting the door and keeping the world out for a period of time.

Stay connected- community is an outlook towards life in which you define yourself in relation to the world around you rather than onlyl in connectionwith yourself. You should consider “enlarging the sense of self”.

Play hard- whether it is taking an art class; ballroom dancing, playing basketball, running, weight lifting, or just hanging out with friends, doing something you really enjoy allows you to express who you arally are.

Be willing to lose- feelings of inauthenticity are heightened by a lack of a phiosophy that allows failture to be part of life. If you are leading a full life, you are going to fail some every day.

How Do I Deal With My Jealous Partner?

Readers Question: Georgette, lives in Perth, Australia and her question was, “How does one deal with a jealous partner?”

Answer to Readers Question: You are not the only woman out there struggling with this problem. You must be feeling confused, sad and frustrated because your boyfriend is so jealous. Though you love him, feel connected to him on many levels and issues, despite the warmth and tenderness you share,your relationship is tortured by his frequent bouts of jealousy.

Jealousy is a very common issue in relationships and the problems it presents are not so easy to resolve. Jealousy has deep roots, often in the lack of parental affection early in life or in later experiences of loss or rejection by a loved one. This kind of experience can breed enduring insecurity in relationships and undermine the capacity for trust,

At first, jealousy in a partner may feel good. It can make you feel wanted and appealing, but as you are discovering, it quickly becomes a prison and a potentially dangerous one at that. It restricts your freedom, putting you under a constant cloud of suspicion for innocent interactions.

Jealousy is a sign that a person feel threatened, and in emotional panic over threatened loss, some people do dangerous things. The fear makes them actually misperceive innocent social situations, viewing every glance or conversation with an outsider as absolute proof of abandonment. Then, they feel tremendous anger over what they wee as a betrayal.

Often jealousy incites aggression, it arises from a sense of personal weakness,and it occurs because of personal fears of losing a partner who is important to his sense of self.

One way to resolve this one of one is you need to try talking calmly to your boyfriend about his jealousy You might be able to effect some changes. Whatever you do avoid arguments and don’t get defensive about you own behavior. Tell him a kind, loving way how his reactions makes you feel-how they scare you and how restrictive they feel.

Then jointly create a set of rules that you can both live by that will satisfy you both. If you want to save this relationship you need to work it out. You are not going to completely solve this problem in one discussion or 20. You will have to revisit this issue often and work it out one at a time. It will take a great deal of patience and understanding from you- but his worst fears can be subdued if he is worth keeping. Take the first step down the path of change.

Ballroom Dancing

I am sure by now you have watched “Dancing with the Stars” on TV. Ballroom dancing is becoming more popular than ever. It’s the latest craze for people of all ages. Did you get the dancing bug?

Ballroom dancing is a great way to improve your fitness and flexibility, relieve stress and make you more popular at dances and night clubs. Ballroom dancing is meant to be fun and enjoyable and can be a comfortable way to meet someone new, one dance at a time. It is also an easy and gently form of exercise. Ballroom dancing is a form of partner dancing in which two people move in harmony with each other and the music.

Ballroom dancing, refers collectively to a set of partner dances, one person leads and the other one follows the steps, which originated in the Western world and are now enjoyed both socially and competitively around the globe. Its performance and entertainment aspects are also widely enjoyed on stage, in films, and on television. It is both for the young and old.

Ballroom dancing requires training just like any other sports. You would have to take lessons to learn to play tennis, golf, football, bowling, weight training, aerobics, water skiing, swimming and therefore ballroom dancing is no different.

Learning to ballroom dance is fun but its really hard work. There is a lot to consider, you must have good posture, have strong legs and be willing to put in hours to practice but always remember anyone can learn to ballroom dance if they have to desire to. If you can walk you can dance.

I would personally first start with group classes and then if you feel the passion for dancing then you can start taking private lessons and learn dances like: Waltz, Quick step, Fox Trot, Tango, Swing, Jive, Cha Cha Cha, Rumba. .

You can also learn to dance the Nigt club dances:
Night club Two-step – Hustle – Modern Jive / LeRoc / the whole swing variety: West Coast Swing / East Coast Swing (always included in the “American Rhythm” category) / Lindy Hop / Carolina Shag / Collegiate Shag / Balboa

If your passion is for Latin night club, then learn to
Salsa – Merengue – Cumbia – Bachata – Cha-cha-cha – Samba

And of course if you live in Texas you should learn to Country/Western dance:
Polka – Cha-cha-cha – Two-step – Waltz – Whip

Other dances that might interest you : Cajun dances
Cajun One Step or Cajun Jig – Cajun Two Step – Zydeco – Cajun Waltz – Cajun Jitterbug or Argentine tango, Peabody or Cabaret.

Ballroom dancing is so much fun, you should try it.

Meeting New People and Making New Friends

As you get older, you may think it is harder than ever to meet people who share your interests. You are right, because perhaps the easiest time in life to go about meeting new friends is when we are teenagers. At that time in life, we seem to make friends very easily and with very little effort. Perhaps this is because we aren’t that complicated yet, and life has not yet taught us about the bad things in some people. We see people as they are and that’s all there is to it. Its so easy to make lots of friends because we have a lot of the same interests, going to school, studying, weekend fun, going to each others house, going to the movies, playing games etc..

Perhaps when we go about meeting new friends no matter how old we are, we should think like a young child. Everyone we meet should be a potential friend, no matter how different they may seem at first. We all get hung up on appearances, culture and status when meeting new people, and this may keep us from meeting some truly amazing people who will eventually become new friends.

Even if someone may seem scary in appearance, or does not lead the same lifestyle that we have doesn’t mean they are not worth of getting to know. Someone dressed in Goth isn’t necessarily a dark and dreary person; they may just like to dress that way, but don’t write anyone off when you first meet them. You may find that you have more friends than you can handle if you just open your mind and don’t be judgmental. Remember that meeting new people can eventually lead to great friendships that could last of years to come. We all need great friendships in this world.

Meeting new people and making new friends is hard when you don’t know anyone, especially if you are new to an area. As adults, we are always wanting to meet new people, but we rarely know how to go about it. Meeting new friends in a new community can be easy, you might start with introducing yourself to your neighbors, having a neighborhood get together,a block party, inviting one neighbor at a time for a cup of coffee or soda, taking a cooked dish when a few family moves in your neighborhood. You can also find out about community events that you might be interested in, and attend some gatherings, make sure you smile at everyone, be friendly when meeting new people who might become good friends in the future. A smile can go a long way, and you may find that smiling is infectious and enjoyable.

You may also be meeting new people and making friends at your new job but make sure you take it easy in that department, as you may end up being good friends with someone you work closely with, but if you ever have problems in your friendship, it’s going to effect working and seeing that person everyday difficult. Don’t forget to start meeting new friends that work in other departments so that you can keep your work and your personal friendship separate. This will help alleviate some of the stress of being around each other all the time, and may give your friendship plenty of room to grow.

There are always other ways to meeting new friends:

• An existing friend or family member might introduce you to their best friends and have diner together and get to know them.
• At church is another place to make new christian friends, you must of course go to church to do that.
• At a gym is a good place to introduce yourself to the person on the next work out machine next to you.
• You can join a dating service online, which a lot of people do today.
• You can make new friends if you are attending a convention or business meeting, exchange business cards and see where it leads to.

Look for the opportunity whenever you can to meet people and make new friends.

MEN-How To Dress For Success

I used to think that I was just a sloppy dresser by nature. I never really understood issues of how to dress for success, and I did not think it was that important. Whenever I had a job that required me to dress professionally, I would do my best to fulfill those requirements, but would always seem to fail. My suit would be rumpled, or my tie would not quite match my shirt or my shirt would not be the right color and style and my clothes did not seem right.. Sometimes I would be too conservative, or at other times not conservative enough. In short, dressing well was beyond my ability.

Finally, I made an appointment with an image consultant. I explained that I have always been a hard worker, and a good worker as well. I am friendly, and can get along with almost anyone. But still, no matter how hard I tried, it seemed like I could not get ahead in the office. It seemed like I was getting passed over for promotions, and stagnating in my work.

Well, the image consultant took one look at me and told me that I needed to learn how to dress. He took me step by step through every part of fashion accessorizing, wardrobe selection, personal grooming, and attitude. He also told me that that I was not interested in projecting the right professional image, and as a result I came across as a slob no matter what clothes I put on. Understanding how to dress wasn’t so much a matter of selecting the right clothes but having the right self image. If I could project an image of confidence and self reliance, my knowledge of how to dress would naturally follow.

Well, it did work as well as he said, he was right about the basic principles of dressing for success, now I have embraced the “clothing consciousness”,and I have an effective and artistic appearance. I’ve started dressing well, I feel smart and confident about how I look and it sure has changed everything around for me! I am doing better than ever in my job, and have been promoted and received a pay raise since first learning how to dress. The clothes really do make the man!

Stress Relieving Advice

Life can be rough. The day to day bouts with work, family and routines can really start to wear you down. Something known as stress tends to build in different areas of our body. This can in-turn make us grouchy, irritable,tired and even sore. You’ve probably suffered with a few muscles aches and headaches from stress in the past. We all do. Whether we’d like to believe it or not, it happens to the best of us. The trick is in the stress relieving method. Are you relieving or dealing with your stress? If you’re not, it’s only going to get worse.

Stress is caused by many daily things that happens in our life but the thing to remember is that Stress can be controlled by relaxation techniques

Last night my upper back, just between my shoulder blade and spine was throbbing. Now this could be due to and injury or pulled muscle, but I know it’s not. It’s definitely nothing new for me. I have had that same soreness on and off for years. It is where stress builds. You may encounter something similar. This is a common area to acquire pains if you’re hacking away on a keyboard all day long. Those upper-back and shoulder areas are very vulnerable. Now, what do I do as far as stress relieving goes? After all, I can’t just deal with the pains for a whole week until they’re gone. I’m sick of that. This is why I take a different route and choose to go to a massage therapist. She knows all about muscle aches and stress relieving. Her gentle hands knead those knots right out of my back muscles. This then speeds along the healing process and in a short time, I’m back to my old self again. If you’ve never tried a massage for stress relieving, I highly recommend it. A massage not only relieves stress but also gives you mind some balance where you can cope with your daily routine in a better mood.

What about acupuncture? This is another great route to stress relief. One thing I will encourage is that you go to a reputable place for this therapy. It’s never prudent to try acupuncture on yourself if you don’t know what you’re doing. This therapy consists of needles penetrating your flesh. Therefore it’s to be left to the professionals. I personally have heard wonderful things about acupuncture and its benefits concerning stress relieving and allergies. And finally, don’t forget good old-fashioned R&R. We all need plenty of rest and downtime if we expect to avoid the stress monster. Acupuncture is not for everyone but if you have tried all other methods and can’t get any relief that I suggest you try this.

There are other ways to deal with your stress. Find stress relieving exercises that will help you daily. Exercising daily can help you tremendously. Here are some suggestions: walk, jog, yoga, pilates, weights, swim. You can custom plan your exercising program or go to a profession and get the advice you need.

Did you know that acupuncture is an ancient Chinese technique involving the insertion of fine needles just under the skin in specific locations in order to relieve pain and treat a wide variety of complaints.

Here are some ideas about stress relieving activities: Watch sail boats in the bay, go on a picinic, go watch the sunset or sunrise, plant flowers in your garden, have a long leisure lunch with your best friend, go see a funny late afternoon movie, get a pedicure, watch an old movie at home that makes you laugh etc….

Relaxation Techniques

There are plenty of sources of stress in the world today. As the old saying goes, “there’s no need to look for trouble, because trouble will find you all on its own”. All of us have troubles and worries, deadlines to meet, work issues, home issues, children issues and busy schedules. Along with all these stresses, few of us even have time to kick back and relax. Do you suffer from anxiety? Do you long for ways to ease your anxious moods and relax for just a little while?

There are a number of relaxation techniques that take little time and are highly effective. Some may be done anywhere, even at work.

When your feeling distraught, for whatever reason, your body takes the “fight or flight” stance, causing a rush of adrenalin that induces an increased heart rate and shallow breathing. Correct breathing is key to successful relaxation techniques.

Breathing exercises are quite effective, bringing quick results when you find yourself suddenly anxious. Some people are especially prone to anxiety attacks, which can occur for no apparent reason. Even if you’re aware of the cause, anxiety attacks are unpleasant and may cause heart palpitations and a sensation of tightening in the throat, sometimes to the point of making it difficult to swallow.

The old-fashioned remedy of breathing slowly into a paper bag works amazingly well to relax you and restore proper breathing. Another version of this relaxation technique involves taking slow deep breaths. At first you may find you need to force yourself to breathe slowly, but persist and you’ll soon be back to normal.

Among other relaxation techniques are those classified as meditation. All major religions have a form of meditation that followers may use to commune with their creator. Examples of this discipline include Christian, Sufi, Hindu and Kaballah meditation. All meditative disciplines are excellent relaxation techniques when practiced regularly, bringing a sense of comfort and overall well being. Prayers may also serve you as effective relaxation techniques.

Plain old physical exercise is yet another way to relax. Choose an activity you enjoy and set aside a little time each day, preferably at the same time of day, to engage in this activity. Whether you’re walking, bicycling, swimming, gardening, mountain climbing or just doing a half hour workout,

you will find that physical exercise to be an outstanding form of available relaxation techniques.

Cosmetic contact lenses | color eye contacts

What is one of the first features you notice when looking at someone’s face?
The answer should be: “Their eyes, of course”.
It has been said that eye color is the feature people most notice about men and women. You may hear one woman/man talking to another, about a persons eyes saying “Would you say his/her eyes are greenish blue, or more of a bluish green?”.
Men may wax poetic on a womens eye color. He might say, “Her eyes are like pools of light”, or that she has big, beautiful doe eyes.

Tips on how to wear contact lenses . This site talks about contact lens wearing guidelines and includes several quick tips for your information.

Discover Your New Color

Some of us may be less than satisfied with our natural eye color. Luckily, we have color contacts to change all that today. Not more than fifty years ago, if a person didn’t like their eye color, it was just too bad, because there was nothing you could do.
But today color contacts allows you to change the entire feeling and look of your eyes.
If you have light skin and eyes, you may want dark contacts to provide a mysterious and exotic look.
Dark skinned and dark haired people may want blue or green contacts, which give a pleasing brightness to the face
The general rule of thumb is to choose a color which contrasts with your natural complexion , making your eyes stand out in a crowd.

Contrary to popular belief, not all color contacts are uncomfortable. A new, gel-like material is on the market today. With a soft, breathable, and airy quality to it, some people swear they can not even feel it.

When getting a new pair of color contacts, always keep in mind that you will need an eye examination to determine if you need a prescription lens. Some people have a slight curvature of the eye, known as astigmatism (is when an optical system has different foci for rays that propagate in two perpendicular planes) . In this case, a non-prescription lens could prove uncomfortable or downright painful. If you’ve had an eye exam quite recently, your optometrist may just fill your last prescription for your new color contacts.

Here is Wikipedia’s Cosmetic contact lenses page, which I find is a great resource.

Eye Infection Prevention

Once you’ve got your new color contacts, don’t hit the party just yet. You won’t look too attractive with a nasty eye infection. Treatment and care of your new color contacts is important. Your new contacts come with a little case, with individual compartments for each lens. Every night, place your lenses in a sanitary solution especially designed for contact lenses. The case should be cleaned every day, without fail, so there will be no chance of a wayward staph germ getting into your eyes. Follow instruction from your optometrist on the hygenic way to care for your contacts, always practice sanitary habit and clean your lenses correctly and daily.

If you want to impress that special someone, get a pair or two of color contacts! This is simple enough, with only an eye exam needed. You may want to intensify your natural eye color, or make a sharp contrast to your complexion. You will be surprised when you get lots of compliments on your new look. Sometimes people close to you will notice a change but can decide what is so different about you.

Once you’ve got your new color contacts, don’t hit the party just yet. You won’t look too attractive with a nasty eye infection. Treatment and care of your new color contacts is important. Your new contacts come with a little case, with individual compartments for each lens. Every night, place your lenses in a sanitary solution especially designed for contact lenses. The case should be cleaned every day, without fail, so there will be no chance of a wayward staph germ getting into your eyes. Follow instruction from your optometrist.

Did your know that staph is short for Staphylococcus, which in Greek means bunch of grapes and coccos means granule.

If you want to impress that special someone, get a pair or two of color contacts! They are simple enough, with only an eye exam needed. You may want to intensify your natural eye color, or make a sharp contrast to your complexion. Whatever your choice, remember to always practice sanitary habits, and clean your lenses daily.
You will be surprised when you get lots of compliments on your new look. Sometimes people close to you will notice a change but can decide what is different about you. All the positive attention you get will be make you smile.

The British refer to this as colour contacts. Some people refer this as contack lenz.